This morning I took John to school because he prefers to be a car rider and I like to indulge him once in a while. On the way home I needed to stop by our new Wal Mart which is very conveniently located right around the corner from our neighborhood for two things. Now, I had the girls with me and I thought for sure that this would be a painless event. I was wrong, very, very wrong. As I quickly grabbed what I needed, Abi saw the Bonne Bell lip gloss and asked if she could get some. I have been trying to teach our children the importance of work and earning privileges, so I told her that she could clean her room when we got home and then I would bring her back to choose a "make-up." This approach failed. Unfortunately she was determined to have the make-up during this visit to the store and was going to make my life miserable until I gave in. Thankfully for as strong-willed as she is, I am stubborn and stuck to my guns. Not giving in meant that I ended up carrying a kicking and screaming three-year-old to the checkout while pushing the cart with Emma in it smiling away and loving life. When we arrived at the checkout Abi refused to stand and threw herself on the floor kicking and screaming. When the ever-friendly greeter made an attempt to appease her with a smiley-face sticker, she almost took him out with a kick. We finally made it to the car where she continued her rantings. Did I mention that she did all this while having dressed herself and wearing red polka-dotted stretch pants, a lime-green swaeter, royal blue socks and black Sunday shoes?? It was quite a sight to see.
Now I am faced with the dillemma of dealing with these all too frequest tantrums. I am beginning to think that one of us needs therapy. I have decided that she will watch no TV this week in an effort to see if it is having a negative impact. Unfortunately this behavior is nothing new. I need to find a good book or get some better advice than I have had in the past.
3 comments:
Now that was a good story. Well, I mean it was a sucky story and I am sorry that happened to you. Wow, Abby sounds like a handful! You should definitely post a picture the next time she dresses herself.
you might try a good swift beating once in a while.
Sticking to your guns was a good thing to do. When my child does that I feel it my moral obligation to not give in. I try to explain to her that this sort of behavior will never get her what she so terribly wants. Lately I've also been trying to explain my point of view to her. I just tell her that even though I'd like to help her to be happy I cannot give her what she wants when she is unkind and demanding. Maybe this is over her head, but come on, we know how smart kids are - even at three!
Sorry I've got a comment on everything, but I feel kinda like I'm finally "talking" to you for the first time in a looooooonnnnnngggg time!
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